Episode 19: 3 Ways to Get Unstuck and Stay There Forever

Have you ever felt stuck? Like you’ve been doing the same routine forever, and you’re not growing in any way? Well, you’re not alone.

A study of 2,000 people found that 69 percent feel trapped in the same old routine and over 40 percent are generally unhappy with their lives because of it. (1)

In this article, I’m going to outline the 3 main reasons that people get stuck in the first place, give you the 3 ways to get unstuck, and give you practical examples of your next steps so you can live a life of endless personal growth.

But first, why is “getting unstuck” even that important? Especially if I’m comfortable here…

According to Bronnie Ware, a palliative care nurse, the greatest regret people had when they were in their death bed was, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” She goes on to write: (4)

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Many people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”

The goal here is to not wait until our last days to realize our potential and regret the way we lived our lives. God has created each and every one for some form of greatness, whether it’s to be the best 3rd grade teacher possible, the quickest and most accurate delivery driver, or the next President of the United States – either way, it’s our responsibility to find that out and figure out how to get there.

 

The 3 main reasons why people get stuck:

 

1. We don’t set goals

According to the best research, less than 3 percent of Americans have written goals, and less than 1 percent review and rewrite their goals on a daily basis. (3)

Why?

The primary reasons people don’t set goals is because they don’t know how, they’re scared of failure, or they’re just not serious enough.

 

2. When we do set goals, we suck at it

Studies show that under 25% of us actually stick to New Year’s Resolutions after 30 days, and only 8% accomplish them. Clearly, there’s something wrong with how we are setting goals.

Why?

Because most of us just don’t know how. Brian Tracy, self-development author and goal-setting expert, says, “One of the greatest tragedies of our educational system is that you can receive 15 to 18 years of education in our schools and never once receive a single hour of instruction on how to set goals.”

 

3. We are too one-track minded about growth

Most people think growth is linear, assuming you can only grow in one way at one time. Then they get stuck on it.

For example, if you’re trying to get a promotion, you dial into the lifestyle it takes to get that promotion and forsake everything else. Or if you’re trying to lose weight, you do a mediocre job at work, maybe hang with your friends when it’s convenient, but give your fitness goals 100% of your attention.

The problem with this is that we stay there, and even once we’ve reached our goal, we don’t think to diversify until we’ve sunk into the depressive state of being stuck again.

 

Now that we’ve covered the bad news and the not-so-fun statistics, here’s the good news: you can change.

Getting unstuck isn’t that hard; I promise. It’s just a few simple steps. You can live a life of greatness, fulfill your potential, and be happy doing it.. and most importantly, you can start right now. Not next Monday, next month or next January.

 

Here’s the 3 Ways to Get Unstuck and Stay There Forever:

 

1. Identify all of the areas where you can grow

In an earlier article I wrote, 7 Life Hacks to Mastering Work-Life Balance (5), I wrote about the four main quadrants of focus in life: Family, Business, Health and Hobbies.

Although what falls in these quadrants may be different for you than it is for me, I still think everyone’s life should have these 4 main areas of focus in which you can grow in.

Within each quadrant, there are sublevels of focus.

Family:

  • Friendships
  • Spouse
  • Children
  • Siblings
  • Parents
  • Extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc)

Q: What can you do today to grow in any of these “family” relationships?

 

Business:

  • Full-time job
  • Side-hustle
  • Investments
  • Other opportunities
  • Relationships that pertain to the above (Staff, partners, managers, vendors, etc)

Q: What can you do today to grow in any of these “business” related areas?

 

Health:

Side note: I look at health in 3 ways: Physical, Mental/psychological and spiritual

  • Nutrition
  • Exercise
  • Sleep
  • Education (or continued education)
  • Church (or whatever religious establishment you may be a part of)

Q: What can you do today to grow in any of these “health” related areas?

 

Hobbies:

  • Traveling
  • Art
  • Music
  • Reading
  • Writing
  • Skills / activities

Q: What can you do today to grow in any of these personal “hobbies”?

 

2. Set SMART goals

S-M-A-R-T goals are goals which are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound. (6)

For example, if you know you are overweight, instead of saying this:

  • “I want to lose weight this year” (too vague and immeasurable)
  • “I’m going to lose 20 lbs in a month” (unachievable)
  • “I’m going to do a juice cleanse” (irrelevant and immeasurable)

Say this: I want to lose 20 pounds this year (relevant and specific). I am going to lose 1 pound a week by exercising 3 times a week and watching what I eat (measurable and achievable), and by December (time-bound), I will reach my goal.

I like to set 3 types of goals: Personal (Family and Health), Professional (Business) and Play (Hobbies).

 

3. Reference them daily, weekly and monthly

This one is the easiest one, which is good and bad. It’s good because it takes very little work, but it’s bad because it’s the easiest to not do. It seems so unimportant over time, but don’t be fooled, it’s the biggest step.

  • Write all of your goals down where you can reference them daily and easily. I put mine in my iPhone notes.
  • Set a reminder in your phone to read them daily. This takes 3 minutes.
  • When you see one that stands out that you need to begin working towards, set a time during the weekend to plan how you will achieve this goal.
  • At the end of each month or beginning of each new month, set time aside to audit your goals and track how well you are doing, where you may be falling short, what you need to change, and most importantly – what you need to celebrate!

 

As promised, here are some practical examples:

Family:

  • Set a goal to hang out with your friends 1 night a week, and when you read this in your notes, start a group chat with your buddies and ask if any of them are free for dinner and then make sure it gets scheduled.
  • Set a goal to have at least 1 date night with the wife, put it on the calendar as a recurring appointment, and make sure to ask her in advance what she’s in the mood for.
  • Set a goal to talk to your parents more and set a reminder in your phone on your least busy day to “call parents”.

 

Business:

  • Set a goal for 2 million in revenue for the year, then break that down to quarterly (.5M), monthly (167K), and weekly (38.5K). Then, get with your team and strategize what it takes to reach that goal, and measure it week over week.
  • Set a goal to delegate a major task of yours to one of your direct reports by a certain time period, then establish the steps to reach that goal, and identify what you will do with your time once it’s done.
  • Set a goal to increase profitability by 2% by end of the quarter and do an internal audit of all your expenses. Get rid of unnecessary expenses that have accrued over time, pay off high interest debts, and renegotiate what you can.

 

Health:

  • Set a goal to get 49 hours a week of rest. On the nights you don’t get 7, try to make up for it the next day. Make sure to catch up by Monday and start over.
  • Set a goal to eat healthy 80% of the time. If you eat 21 meals a week, this allows you 4 “cheat meals” per week. Figure out ahead of time what 4 places you will have your cheat meal, so you can enjoy it as much as possible.
  • Set a goal to bench press 250 pounds by December, and break down weekly how much stronger you need to get. Then create a workout program that incorporate bench press often.

 

Hobbies:

  • Set a goal for how many new destinations you want to visit this year, then look at your calendar, reference your paid time off, and schedule those trips ahead of time.
  • Set a goal to read 12 books in the year and pick out the books. Then identify how many pages per day you’d need to read in order to read 1 book a month.
  • Set a goal to get a soccer game together with some of your old teammates, reach out to all of them, and make a Facebook post. Then schedule a game once every month.

 

Even after doing all of this, you are still going to find areas where, even when you are trying your hardest, you will get stuck in. When trying to lose weight, you’ll reach a plateau. When you’ve gotten the promotion, what’s next?

The main point is you can always grow. Once you hit that plateau or reach that goal, look at everything else. If you’ve outlined all the areas in all 4 quadrants, then you should easily be able to recognize an area where you can grow, and a strategy to do so. Life will always have its ups and down, it’s highs and lows. It’s your responsibility to focus on what you can control, and make the best out of whatever season you’re in.

 

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Jared Graybeal | September 3, 2019

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